Growth mindset in a nutshell
Growth mindset is all about taking responsibility for your own success and recognising that you can learn and improve.
Take a look at the images with your child- where do you think your child sits? Do they have a fixed or a growth mindset? Or elements of both? Discuss together.
Change your words, change your mindset.
To effectively have and maintain a growth mindset, children have to change how they speak to and about themselves. Its about altering the perspective of their inner voice.
Before they can do this, the adults around them have a bit of work to do too! The images here offer suggestions for how to change the way we speak to our children.
I will hold my hands up and admit that this isn't as easy as it sounds and some of the alternative phases growth mindset encourages parents and teachers to use can initially feel very scripted. However, they really can make a difference. They key is to pick a couple to start with and try them out whenever you have the opportunity.
The main message here is that we need to praise effort, not outcomes. We need to accept mistakes as part of a learning journey and a way to build determination and resilience in our children. We need to foster a belief that our children can do anything, even if they can't do it right now.
Which phrases might you give a try?
Changing our children's view of themselves
"I'm just not very good at....."
"It's easy for so-and-so"
"I can't do it."
"I don't want to get it wrong."
"That's too hard for me."
"It's not fair, they got a certificate but I'll never get one!"
Does your child say things like this? These all come from a fixed mindset: a fear of challenge, a fear of making mistakes and often comparing themselves to others. Good news? This can change! Yesterday we looked at how we can change the way we speak as adults, to help develop a growth mindset in children. Today is about giving the children the words to change the way they talk/think about themselves.
It's important that our children understand all of the hard work, the many attempts and mistakes and the self-belief that is behind success. More often that not, success can appear easy because we only see the outcome - the certificate, the trophy, the teacher's praise in the classroom. What we need our children to 'see,' or at least understand, is the journey to get there - the weekly football/dancing/music practice, the trying and trying again to improve, the goal setting and the never giving up.
The images here give some examples of how to change your child's fixed mindset. It's better to focus on a couple of things then once they become habitual, add a couple more.
The power of 'yet.'
Similar to what I've discussed about adding 'right now' to a sentence in the anger management materials, adding 'yet' is very powerful and reminds us again that our current level of skill or knowledge is temporary. We can improve!
So if you can't ride a bike yet, can't run a mile yet, can't remember all of your times tables yet or can't write a full story yet - one day the can't will be a can!!
One of our images here is a handy planning tool. It's always useful to consider the small steps we can take to help us achieve our goal.
Goal setting is very powerful. What is something you can't do YET but you are going to work towards achieving?